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PostSubject: Girlfriends Guide to Surviving BMT   Sat Oct 16, 2010 12:53 pm

Girlfriends Guide to Surviving BMT
Hello! My name is Christy, and my boyfriend has currently graduated Air Force BMT. It was the longest 8 ½ weeks of my life, but it ended up being worth it in the end. Anyway, I was thinking that if I had known some of the things I know now before Nick left for BMT, things would have been a bit easier. So, this post is going to be about all the things to expect during BMT and the dos and don’ts! If any other lady on here has also been thru the whole 8 weeks, or is currently going thru it, feel free to add anything to the list!!!

1.Trainees typically leave for BMT Monday-Wednesday. If a trainee arrives any later than Wednesday, they will be recycled a week into the next incoming flight. You WILL be allowed to see them off at the airport! Just remember that the day they leave from the recruiters for MEPS is NOT their ship date (meaning they aren’t leaving for San Antonio yet), they won’t actually leave for basic until the next day.

2.What should your trainee bring to BMT? CELL PHONE!!!! I can’t tell you how many time trainees thought they weren’t allowed there phone, and didn’t bring it. If your trainee gets a call home, he will be allowed to use his phone. Also, his recruiter should have a list of things he is/isn’t allowed to bring with him. He will not be allowed to bring much, and make SURE he doesn’t wear or bring anything that has the Air Force insignia written anywhere on it. The TI’s won’t be very happy about that, and he will become an instant target.

3.The first two weeks are the worst for both you and your trainee. I had never cried so much in my life the first 2 weeks, and I was never an emotional person before. I would question why I am doing this and how in the WORLD I was going to get thru the next 2 months. After two weeks, things typically get a lot better.

4.First phone call: The first call your trainee gets will go to his parents (unless you are married). This call is VERY rushed and very stressful for the trainee. The call is around 3 minutes long, and they are reading from a script. The trainee is NOT allowed to say anything other than what is on the script (My boyfriend added a few things at the end though). This call is only for them to pretty much yell out their address and hang up. The call is very hard to understand because there is a lot of yelling in the back ground.

5.Phone calls: After this phone call, it depends on the TI when or IF your trainee even gets to call. I got a call every Sunday after week 2 that all lasted between 5-45 minutes. Most phone calls were about 15 minutes though. PLEASE, do not wholly depend on phone calls. I know some girls that got them almost every weekend, and some who got none at all. Again, phone calls depend on the TI and how well their flight is doing. Remember, if one trainee messes up, the whole flight does. When your trainee does call, he will be able to call from his cell phone IF he has one. I’m not sure how it works if they don’t have a cell. If they bring their cell, the TI will just keep it turned off in their office and will give it back if the trainee earns a call. Anyway, YES, he will be able to tell you he loves you, misses you, etc. The phone calls are not monitored and the TI’s aren’t nearby. Please, keep positive during the phone call. Your trainee is going thru a very stressful time, so give them happy and encouraging words.

6.Letters: I suggest you write to your trainee every single day. I ended up writing to my boyfriend every single day he was gone. It ended up being about 60 letters. But seriously, the letters help both you and him. Trainees LOVE mail call. They have been cut off from the outside world, but letters give them a small piece of home. But please, keep letters positive too! No sad things, don’t write about bad things that may be going on, just keep them positive and happy! Encourage the trainee. I know that you may not be very happy (I wasn’t either) but do NOT let your trainee know how sad you are. If you have to, write a sad letter but DO NOT send it off. This is what I did. Every time I was having a bad day, I would write a sad letter and put it away. I brought the sad letters with me to Nick’s graduation and told him he can either read them or throw them away. DO NOT SEND PACKAGES!!!!!!!!! ONLY mail your trainee letters, pictures, and cards. NOTHING ELSE unless your trainee specifically told you to send him something that was verified by his TI. Please, keep the pictures modest. The TI’s will see the pictures! Also, if you somehow find a picture of your trainee while he is at BMT, do NOT send it to him. He will get in trouble for that. You can send cards, but make sure that they are a normal size (not overly huge) and make sure they don’t sing or play music OR have any glitter on them. They can get in trouble for that also. Make sure the envelopes are plain white, use normal stamps, and do not write anything on the envelope besides the address. I know all this may seems a bit ridiculous but there really are so many rules at BMT, it will make your head spin. Your trainees TI can not and will not hold back any letters. Your trainee WILL get every letter you send him, but it depends in the TI if he gets to write you or not. My boyfriend wrote me 6 letters the whole time he was gone but keep in mind that most of the time he wrote was at “illegal” times like during bed time, church, etc. Again, I know girls who got NO letters OR phone calls the whole 8 weeks. You might get tired of hearing this, but everything depends on the TI.

7.Address: The address is about 5 lines long, and is typically set up like this:

AB last name, first name, middle initial
Squadron/ Flight/ Dorm
Street/Unit #
PSC#
Lackland AFB, TX 78236-6409

Here is an example using a FAKE name and a FAKE flight/squadron

AB Smith, John N.
319 TRS/ FLT 631/ Dorm B-3
PSC # 3
1320 Truemper St. Unit 369571
Lackland AFB, TX 78236-6409

8.Get involved in what your trainee is going thru. I researched and watched MANY videos to get an idea what each week is like for the trainees.
The following website breaks BMT down into weeks. I found this very helpful when Nick went to BMT.
http://afreserve.com/?:Basic%20Training%20Schedule

This site has a lot of videos you can watch about BMT and what goes on each week.
http://www.airforce.com/opportunities/enlisted/basic-training/

9.Join support groups! There as SO many of them. A few are:
http://www.airforceangels.com/
Many groups of facebook like:
AIR FORCE GIRLFRIENDS
Air Force Girlfriends
Air Force Moms Support

And many many more! These groups help A LOT! I don’t know what I would do without them. It was nice to be able to have people to talk to who knew what I was going thru.

10.Graduation: Once the 8 weeks are FINALLY over, you will ask yourself where the last 2 months went. It will be a very memorable weekend!
Just a few things:

1. Make sure you get to Lackland early enough to view the Airmans run! This is the first time you will actually see your trainee in 8 weeks! All the Airmen will run with their flights while singing “jodies”. You will not be allowed to actually visit your Airman yet though. Also, if you happen to see your Airman before they are released at the coin ceremony, do NOT approach them, talk to them, or touch them. They could get into a lot of trouble.

2. Next, you will have to wait 2 hours after the Airmans run for the coin ceremony to begin. The ceremony takes a while. At the end, they will tell you when you can approach the Airmen. The Airmen will be in formation and can not move until they are “tapped” out. Make sure you get your hug as SOON as you see your Airman! They will NOT be able to show any affection after that. No hugs, kisses, holding hands, etc. in public while they are in uniform. Please, follow ALL rules during BMT graduation because your Airman is responsible for anyone seeing him that weekend. Meaning, if you do something stupid, he gets in trouble for it.

3. PDA: The PDA rules really aren’t as bad as they seem, to me anyway. I got my hug when I first saw Nick (he told me he couldn’t kiss me yet though) and we would hold hands and be all cuddly in the car. Plus, we brought him to the hotel room, so we had some alone time. I know, it sucks you can’t hug, kiss, and hold hands as much as you want, but PLEASE just follow the rule. You don’t want to get your Airman recycled.

4. Same rules apply to off base passes. Don’t make you Airman do anything on OR off base they could get him in trouble.

5. Food: Your Airman will want to eat a lot. A LOT. You will be amazed and wonder where all the food is going and why they haven’t gotten sick yet. Nick wanted to eat every 2 hours or so. Plus, I brought him some of his favorite snacks and he ate them all.

6. What to bring your Airman: They are only allowed, I think, 3 bags to tech school, so keep in mind that they have to fit all their uniforms AND shoes into those 3 bags. The only things we brought Nick were his contacts, lap top, iPod, and we brought him a new phone. Anything else, you can mail to your Airman once he gets to tech school.

7. Base passes: If you happen to lose your base pass or you never got issued one, DON’T FREAK OUT! You can easily get another one by going to the visitor center on base. Make sure you have a valid ID though. It only takes about 5-10 minutes of waiting until they call you up and issue you a pass.


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PostSubject: Re: Girlfriends Guide to Surviving BMT   Sat Oct 16, 2010 1:03 pm

This is a list of events and times at BMT graduation.

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PostSubject: Re: Girlfriends Guide to Surviving BMT   Sat Oct 16, 2010 3:27 pm

Thank you Chrissy! I've learned alot from a bunch of you girls. It really helped me out as i was willing to go through with this whole experience. I was really anxious and now i get somewhat jealous because idk if i'll get to have the experiences based on the situation me and Shane are going through. BUT at least i know now just in case :) <3


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PostSubject: Re: Girlfriends Guide to Surviving BMT   Sat Oct 16, 2010 8:13 pm

Airmankisses wrote:
Thank you Chrissy! I've learned alot from a bunch of you girls. It really helped me out as i was willing to go through with this whole experience. I was really anxious and now i get somewhat jealous because idk if i'll get to have the experiences based on the situation me and Shane are going through. BUT at least i know now just in case :) <3
Your welcome girl.
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Sometimes, I wish I knew some of the stuff I know now. It wouldn't have been so hard in the beginning if I knew what to expect.
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PostSubject: Re: Girlfriends Guide to Surviving BMT   Sat Oct 16, 2010 9:10 pm

Wow Christy! That was seriously like everything, awesome job!!
I don't have much to add except to agree 100% with everything.

I'm Andrea and I'm actually at Lackland AFB right now for my boyfriend Nick's graduation! So like Christy, this is all really fresh and recent for me to share.
I so wish I had something like this to read before Nick left! Or even during haha but a lot of this other aspects of this site helped anyway :)


Some stuff from me:

-Before he leaves...
ENJOY YOUR TIME TOGETHER!!!
Nick and I had our issues, we broke up twice and got back together in the 2 months we dated before he left.
Now that we've been through all we have been through, we are thriving and so in love. But I wish I had known all I know now back then.
Just please, enjoy ALL your time and avoid anything bad as much as possible because he will be leaving sooner than you think!

And do your research, if not before he leaves, at least once he leaves. Like Chrissy said, join support groups, look at the AF websites, read wikipedia, etc. It helps SO MUCH, I honestly don't think I could've made it through, at least with my sanity, without having done that!


-During BMT...
If he doesnt have a cell phone or has a broken one (Nick's was broken), they can use other peoples so don't panic if he doesn't have one or isnt able to use it really. Just make sure you answer the numbers you don't know because you never know if it's him!

And what Chrissy said...YES, THE FIRST TWO WEEKS ARE THE HARDEST BY FAR!
If you have your doubts and fears in the back of your head during that time, that's normal because I know I did.
Nick said they were the hardest for him too, trust me, they want to write and call SOOO bad but they cant :(
But once you start with the letters and phone calls it will all be so worth it and you will feel a hundred times better!

Phone calls. Personally, my longest was maybe 7 minutes long, and Nick had a good TI. He was able to call every week after the first two weeks, on either Saturday or Sunday (I even had one Monday, the week of graduation). Keep your phone with you at ALL TIMES, turned up loud, if possible, especially during the weekend! And be prepared for a call anytime! Usually they can call between 1-7pm Texas Time, from what I gathered. So don't think a certain time is safe cause I did and missed call cause I was showering! >:(
Just remember with the military, don't expect too much and appreciate everything good, no matter how little!

And also seconding what Chrissy said, don't hesitate to write as much as possible! Nick's friend told me how ecstatic Nick was everytime he got a letter from me, how he smiled forever and just loved it so much! (Nick just stood there looking all bashful and smirking :P) I wrote everyday, sometimes 2 letters haha!
It's a great way to relieve stress too. But yeah, keep them as positive as possible!
Not gonna lie, I was honest with Nick if I was feeling a little down or needed to complain a little cause that's just our relationship.
But TRYYYY to be positive cause I did try as much as I could! Lol
and they love pictures :) Obviously keep them appropriate :P
Nick said, though, that the TI didn't look at or open anyone's mail. I'd still be hesitant, but if I had known that, I wouldn't have censored myself as much when I wrote.

-During BMT Graduation...
The PDA thing, they are allowed to "escort" you on their left side, which means linking arms with you. Nick and I have been linked the whole time :) They need their right arm to salute, though.
And for pictures we get close and sometimes he puts his arm on my back.
I know it's hard not to grab their hand, out of habit, but just grab their left arm instead cause it's completely allowed!
Sometimes I'll touch his face or rub his handa little too, only briefly though and NOT obviously.
You can save the rest for the hotel room ;)

When getting on base, the Airmen letting you in are actually pretty chill, just have your ID ready everytime and you'll be in really fast (except the first morning!).
Try and be early for things! ESPECIALLY when bringing them back to Base after Town Passes!
Cause even if you are early, you can eat, chill at the mini mall or snuggle in the car :)

I'm sure this is a given, but leave the weekend up to your Airman, don't try and micromanage or plan too much. I'm sure he'll be open to suggestions though, because they want you to be happy too!

-In general...
People may not be supportive. I know a lot of people weren't to me in the beginning before I left for school and it sucked a lot. It's really tough, and if/when people give you a hard time, be as patient as possible and just say, we love each other and it will all be worth it to us in the end. Or something along those lines!
Try and find other ladies (like us!) who have been or will be in your shoes.
Or maybe try explaining to those who don't understand or act supportive.
Sometimes they may think they are just looking out for your best interest.
If they understand more, then they can be more supportive!




That's about all I can think of right now!
Yes, the 8.5 weeks are hard as HELL but trust me, Grad Weekend is the most amazing, happy time and it will all feel so sooo worth it! Just tough it out for your man and take pride in the fact that you're an Airman's girlfriend/fiancee/wife, cause it isn't easy!
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PostSubject: Re: Girlfriends Guide to Surviving BMT   Sat Oct 16, 2010 9:29 pm

I added some stuff that I found was true to my trip.

Chrissy wrote:
Girlfriends Guide to Surviving BMT
1.Trainees typically leave for BMT Monday-Wednesday. If a trainee arrives any later than Wednesday, they will be recycled a week into the next incoming flight. You WILL be allowed to see them off at the airport! Just remember that the day they leave from the recruiters for MEPS is NOT their ship date (meaning they aren’t leaving for San Antonio yet), they won’t actually leave for basic until the next day. Active Duty is supposed to arrive on Mondays. Guard and Reserve members are scheduled to arrive on Tuesdays. If the trainee has any problems with missing a flight, they have priority over other passengers and need to make sure they let the airline know that they're going to BMT. If the airline is unable to work with them, have them call their recruiter or the training personel with their home unit.

2. Re: CELL PHONE Bring at least one Calling Card!!!! I can’t tell you how many times trainees thought they weren’t allowed there phone, and didn’t bring it. If your trainee gets a call home, he will be allowed to use his phone. Also, his recruiter should have a list of things he is/isn’t allowed to bring with him, but all necessary items will be available for purchase at the mini mall if they forget something or get the wrong thingl. He will not be allowed to bring much (Pack as LIGHTLY as possible. One of my TI's fave first games was to have us hold our luggage our straight in front of us or over our heads), and make SURE he doesn’t wear or bring anything that has the Air Force insignia written anywhere on it. The TI’s won’t be very happy about that, and he will become an instant target. In my squadron, Trainees were NOT allowed to have their cell phones while in training, however if they bring them, some TIs will let them use their cell phone for the initial phone call instead of the ghetto pay phones. After that phone call, they will be asked to remove the battery and package them in separate envelopes that will then be held in the CQ or TI's office. They'll get them back usually the night before graduation. Tell them to NOT USE THEM WITHOUT PERMISSION. We had some guys in our brother flight use theirs before their TI said it was allowed and they got recycled...the day before graduation. Their families came down to see them and weren't allowed. ~ Plain, one-colored shirts (black or white) with no print or designs are best for blending in. Make sure your Trainee packs a belt, since they're required to tuck their shirt into their pants and sagging is no bueno.

4.First phone call: The first call your trainee gets will go to his parents (unless you are married). This call is VERY rushed and very stressful for the trainee. The call is around 3 minutes long, and they are reading from a script. The trainee is NOT allowed to say anything other than what is on the script (My boyfriend added a few things at the end though). This call is only for them to pretty much yell out their address and hang up. The call is very hard to understand because there is a lot of yelling in the back ground. Actually the first phone call depends on your TI. You're allowed to call whomever you wish, but the TIs will strongly suggest you call your parents since they're usually everyone's primary point of contact regarding info about you while you're in training. The trainee will be given a script to read, but again, depending on the TI they may get to throw in a little extra. We weren't required to scream or yell our information, but that's because my TI thought it was stupid. The trainee will probably sound scared/upset. It's completely NORMAL. They're in a new, stressful (and for some scary) environment and they're usually wondering what the hell they just did to themselves and incredibly homesick, but they're completely safe and taken care of. Give them time to adjust. They will be okay.

5.Phone calls: After this phone call, it depends on the TI when or IF your trainee even gets to call. I got a call every Sunday after week 2 that all lasted between 5-45 minutes. Most phone calls were about 15 minutes though. PLEASE, do not wholly depend on phone calls. I know some girls that got them almost every weekend, and some who got none at all. Again, phone calls depend on the TI and how well they and their flight is doing. Remember, if one trainee messes up, the whole flight does. This is another thing that depends on your TI. Trainees will have opportunities to earn individual rewards which are sometimes extra phone calls. Likewise, individual trainees can be punished for effing up by losing phone call privileges while the rest of the flight gets theirs. When your trainee does call, he will be able to call from his cell phone IF he has one. I’m not sure how it works if they don’t have a cell (They use payphones and their calling cards). If they bring their cell, the TI will just keep it turned off in their office and will give it back if the trainee earns a call. Anyway, YES, he will be able to tell you he loves you, misses you, etc. The phone calls are not monitored and the TI’s aren’t nearby They're usually watching you through cameras and/or can be listening in on speakers. Cameras are everywhere excluding showers and sleeping bays. TIs are still able to hear EVERYTHING through the intercom and they do spy). Please, keep positive during the phone call. Your trainee is going thru a very stressful time, so give them happy and encouraging words.

6.Letters: I suggest you write to your trainee every single day. I ended up writing to my boyfriend every single day he was gone. It ended up being about 60 letters. But seriously, the letters help both you and him. Trainees LOVE mail call. They have been cut off from the outside world, but letters give them a small piece of home. But please, keep letters positive too! No sad things, don’t write about bad things that may be going on, just keep them positive and happy! Encourage the trainee. I know that you may not be very happy (I wasn’t either) but do NOT let your trainee know how sad you are. If you have to, write a sad letter but DO NOT send it off. This is what I did. Every time I was having a bad day, I would write a sad letter and put it away. I brought the sad letters with me to Nick’s graduation and told him he can either read them or throw them away. DO NOT SEND PACKAGES!!!!!!!!! ONLY mail your trainee letters, pictures, and cards. NOTHING ELSE unless your trainee specifically told you to send him something that was verified by his TI. Please, keep the pictures modest. The TI’s will see the pictures! Also, if you somehow find a picture of your trainee while he is at BMT, do NOT send it to him. He will get in trouble for that. You can send cards, but make sure that they are a normal size (not overly huge) and make sure they don’t sing or play music OR have any glitter on them. They can get in trouble for that also. Make sure the envelopes are plain white, use normal stamps, and do not write anything on the envelope besides the address. I know all this may seems a bit ridiculous but there really are so many rules at BMT, it will make your head spin. Your trainees TI can not and will not hold back any letters. Your trainee WILL get every letter you send him, but it depends in the TI if he gets to write you or not. My boyfriend wrote me 6 letters the whole time he was gone but keep in mind that most of the time he wrote was at “illegal” times like during bed time, church, etc. Again, I know girls who got NO letters OR phone calls the whole 8 weeks. You might get tired of hearing this, but everything depends on the TI. They also may not be allowed to open their mail until they have permission. It's illegal to withold a Trainee's mail from them, but not illegal for the TI to require that they NOT open it. Just knowing that you are getting mail is such a big thing though!

5. Food: Your Airman will want to eat a lot. A LOT. You will be amazed and wonder where all the food is going and why they haven’t gotten sick yet. Nick wanted to eat every 2 hours or so. Plus, I brought him some of his favorite snacks and he ate them all. BRING CANDY/JUNK FOOD!!! I soooo wanted to fight a kid for a Reese's Cup once.

6. What to bring your Airman: They are only allowed, I think, 3 bags to tech school, so keep in mind that they have to fit all their uniforms AND shoes into those 3 bags. The only things we brought Nick were his contacts, lap top, iPod, and we brought him a new phone. Anything else, you can mail to your Airman once he gets to tech school. Have them pack a bag of things that want brought to them before they go to BMT. It's less of a headache.
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PostSubject: Re: Girlfriends Guide to Surviving BMT   Sat Oct 16, 2010 9:50 pm

Dellasrocks wrote:
In my squadron, Trainees were NOT allowed to have their cell phones while in training, however if they bring them, some TIs will let them use their cell phone for the initial phone call instead of the ghetto pay phones. After that phone call, they will be asked to remove the battery and package them in separate envelopes that will then be held in the CQ or TI's office. They'll get them back usually the night before graduation. Tell them to NOT USE THEM WITHOUT PERMISSION. We had some guys in our brother flight use theirs before their TI said it was allowed and they got recycled...the day before graduation. Their families came down to see them and weren't allowed. ~ Plain, one-colored shirts (black or white) with no print or designs are best for blending in. Make sure your Trainee packs a belt, since they're required to tuck their shirt into their pants and sagging is no bueno.
Nick told me that if someone didn't have their cell phone, the TI said they weren't allowed to use pay phones, so they would have to share with a wingman....I guess it changes from squadron to squadron

Dellasrocks wrote:
but all necessary items will be available for purchase at the mini mall if they forget something or get the wrong thing
Nick got in trouble because his recruiter told him to being nothing but clothes, so he had no shaving equipment, etc. So, his TI wasn't very happy. I also aggree that they should pack lightly, but make sure they have basic needs.

Dellasrocks wrote:
BRING CANDY/JUNK FOOD!!! I soooo wanted to fight a kid for a Reese's Cup once.
LMAO!!! That's Nick's favorite candy!!! Everytime I call him, he's playing video games and eating mini reese cups. :D


Dellasrocks wrote:
Have them pack a bag of things that want brought to them before they go to BMT. It's less of a headache.
I agree
Nick is a little hoarder, so I had no idea what to bring him at first.
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PostSubject: Re: Girlfriends Guide to Surviving BMT   Sat Oct 16, 2010 10:23 pm

Hahaha! The cell phone thing may have changed now. It's been a few years since I went through and back then, NO trainees could have a cell phone. :) I can see them not being allowed to use payphones just due to them being broken though. Half of ours were. It sucked because they would sometimes just go dead or they would make noises the whole call or you could hear the person, but they couldn't hear you. :(

I can understand his TI being upset about him not having shaving equipment. I found that TIs really don't like recruiters very much. Some of them are just shitty and don't really care about their recruits. I checked the website for lackland and found a LINK FOR WHAT TO BRING TO BMT. It seems pretty similar to what we needed.
The only suggestions that I would make are:
1. Toothpaste - get the kind in the solid containers. Mine was a squish out kind and I had to literally blow it back up to look brand new until I could buy a new one. Otherwise it's a demerit.
2. NOT to bring bar soap. You can get a demerit/ get a 341 pulled for it still being wet and getting the soap tray gunky.
3. Shower shoes = dark flip flops
4. Combs - dark/simple fine tooth
5. envelopes/stamps - pre-stamp/address the envelopes. It saves time for when you are allowed to write a letter to someone and you have to do it in a HURRY. Some people weren't allowed to mail theirs because they didn't have time to address the envelope.
6. Males need the spandex shorts (BLACK ONLY) too. The AF PT gear sucks and no one appreciates seeing your junk.
7. Q-tips!!! They're invaluable!
8. Watch - get digital and make sure it can switch to 24-hour
9. Running Shoes - Nothing bright or flashy. They may or may not be allowed to use their own. My squadron allowed it since the shoes sold at BMT are overpriced and shitty. Doing it over, I would go ahead and invest in a new pair and break them in before I went. Even if they're not allowed to use them during their training, they'll be able to wear them during Tech.

I initially brought most everything on the list, but ended up only using about half of it. What my flight did was kinda split our gear. We were split as bays (A and B), so half the girls in one bay would keep the shampoo and the other half would keep the soap and we all just shared. It was easier to keep our locker drawers clean and organized. Same thing with Tampons/Pads and hair stuff. The rest was just packed away with our luggage.
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PostSubject: Re: Girlfriends Guide to Surviving BMT   Sat Oct 16, 2010 10:28 pm

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I initially brought most everything on the list, but ended up only using about half of it. What my flight did was kinda split our gear. We were split as bays (A and B), so half the girls in one bay would keep the shampoo and the other half would keep the soap and we all just shared. It was easier to keep our locker drawers clean and organized. Same thing with Tampons/Pads and hair stuff. The rest was just packed away with our luggage.

Omg i didn't even think about having your period while at BMT!
AHAHA! That must suck SO bad.
Mine is ridiculous to the point where i can barely stand sometimes.. i would DIE.


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PostSubject: Re: Girlfriends Guide to Surviving BMT   Sat Oct 16, 2010 10:32 pm

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Dallasrocks wrote:
I initially brought most everything on the list, but ended up only using about half of it. What my flight did was kinda split our gear. We were split as bays (A and B), so half the girls in one bay would keep the shampoo and the other half would keep the soap and we all just shared. It was easier to keep our locker drawers clean and organized. Same thing with Tampons/Pads and hair stuff. The rest was just packed away with our luggage.

Omg i didn't even think about having your period while at BMT!
AHAHA! That must suck SO bad.
Mine is ridiculous to the point where i can barely stand sometimes.. i would DIE.

UGGGGGGGH! It was AWFUL!!! I started the day after I got there and didn't stop until after I was out because of all the stress. Some girls get lucky and just don't get theirs at all. Others don't have any changes.
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PostSubject: Re: Girlfriends Guide to Surviving BMT   Sat Oct 16, 2010 10:40 pm

Great job ladies! I made this a sticky so it stays at the top.



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PostSubject: Re: Girlfriends Guide to Surviving BMT   Sat Oct 16, 2010 11:11 pm

LovinMyFlyBoy wrote:
Great job ladies! I made this a sticky so it stays at the top.
Oh, it was you who made it a sticky!!
I was freaking out, because I'm not allowed to make stickies since I'm not a mod. I was like, "Oh crap,I'm going to get in trouble!!!" Lol.
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PostSubject: Re: Girlfriends Guide to Surviving BMT   Sun Oct 17, 2010 12:18 am

Thank you girls! This will be a HUGE help before/during/after Tyler is done with BMT. You guys are awesome!!! =] Hug





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PostSubject: Boyfriend just left today for bootcamp   Tue Oct 19, 2010 7:10 pm

this page is amazing! my man left today for bootcamp, and ive been freaking out, so many of my questions were answered. thanks girls
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PostSubject: Re: Girlfriends Guide to Surviving BMT   Tue Oct 19, 2010 9:45 pm

carly wrote:
this page is amazing! my man left today for bootcamp, and ive been freaking out, so many of my questions were answered. thanks girls

Of course!
If you need anything else feel free to ask or PM me :)
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PostSubject: Re: Girlfriends Guide to Surviving BMT   Wed Oct 20, 2010 12:53 am

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carly wrote:
this page is amazing! my man left today for bootcamp, and ive been freaking out, so many of my questions were answered. thanks girls

Of course!
If you need anything else feel free to ask or PM me :)
Same here!
If you have any other questions, just ask!
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PostSubject: Re: Girlfriends Guide to Surviving BMT   Wed Oct 20, 2010 1:26 am

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-Before he leaves...
ENJOY YOUR TIME TOGETHER!!!
YES!!! I regret all the times I took for granted before Nick left. Learn to live in the moment!


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-But once you start with the letters and phone calls it will all be so worth it and you will feel a hundred times better!
True also! I felt SO good after I got a letter or phone call...It's truly amazing how a 15 minute phone call made my day 1,000 times better.

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-Keep your phone with you at ALL TIMES, turned up loud, if possible, especially during the weekend! And be prepared for a call anytime!
My poor phone! I just got it a month before Nick left, but not it has so many scratches and dents on it because I brought it EVERY where. Even when I went jogging, my phone was in my hand.
One day, my phone went off in math class and it was an out of state number. So I answered it in the middle of class, witout even thinking about it...But it was a wrong number call...Lol.

likeomgcool wrote:
-It's a great way to relieve stress too. But yeah, keep them as positive as possible!
Not gonna lie, I was honest with Nick if I was feeling a little down or needed to complain a little cause that's just our relationship.
But TRYYYY to be positive cause I did try as much as I could! Lol
I would tell Nick if I was feeling down, and I would sometimes rant about things going on in life in the letters too, but like Andrea said, TRY to keep them as postive as possible. It's okay to write about how much you miss them and such, just don't make that the whole letter. They know you miss them, and they miss you, but there's nothing they can do about that.

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-During BMT Graduation...
The PDA thing, they are allowed to "escort" you on their left side, which means linking arms with you. Nick and I have been linked the whole time :) They need their right arm to salute, though.
Nick's TI wouldn't allow him to escort anyone...At all. I've heard they are beginning to change the rules on the whole "escort" thing, so be careful when you go to see your Airman at Lackland!! Ask him what is or isn't okay with his TI!
Anyway, I'm jealous Andrea! Nick's TI was such a hard ass.
:P

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-When getting on base, the Airmen letting you in are actually pretty chill, just have your ID ready everytime and you'll be in really fast (except the first morning!).
Yeah, I was expecting everyone to be SO uptight about everything. But it was actually pretty chill. I even had a conversation with a TI while I was waiting for the Coin Ceremony to begin.

likeomgcool wrote:
-Try and be early for things! ESPECIALLY when bringing them back to Base after Town Passes!
Make SURE you at least and hour to a half an hour early bringing them back!!!
They need to be back ON time!

likeomgcool wrote:
-I'm sure this is a given, but leave the weekend up to your Airman, don't try and micromanage or plan too much. I'm sure he'll be open to suggestions though, because they want you to be happy too!
Also true! This is your Airmans big weekend, leave it up to him what he wants to do!
Also, don't plan ahead TOO much. I've heard of familes buying tickets to attractions and planning before hand but their Airmen end up getting their town/base passes taken away.
Anything, ANYTHING can happen that weekend. Be prepared!

likeomgcool wrote:
--In general...
People may not be supportive. I know a lot of people weren't to me in the beginning before I left for school and it sucked a lot. It's really tough, and if/when people give you a hard time, be as patient as possible and just say, we love each other and it will all be worth it to us in the end. Or something along those lines!
Try and find other ladies (like us!) who have been or will be in your shoes.
Or maybe try explaining to those who don't understand or act supportive.
Sometimes they may think they are just looking out for your best interest.
If they understand more, then they can be more supportive!
I agree!
:)
Others may not fully understand what you are going thru, so it's not easy for them to be supportive.
But, all of ladies are here to support anyone who needs it!!!!




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PostSubject: Re: Girlfriends Guide to Surviving BMT   Wed Oct 20, 2010 1:35 am

One more thing:
Please, do not touch and try not to talk directly to the trainees.
Nick's mom patted one on the back and tried to talk to him. If a TI had been around, Nick and the trainee BOTH would have gotten into trouble.
Don't do anything to get a trainee in trouble. When I went to Lackland, I saw many familes do things to make a trainees life even more miserable. Just leave the trainees be. It's better that way.

It is a lot of fun to watch them though!! When I would wait for Nick to be released for town/base pass, I would watch the trainees march and sing jodies and sometimes I got to witness them being yelled at, lol. It was fun to watch because I knew that Nick was doing all that just weeks before.
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Anyway, I have some things about tech school that I'll post soon. Nick has only been there for a week and a half, so I'm going to wait a bit longer so I'll know more about what to expect.
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PostSubject: Re: Girlfriends Guide to Surviving BMT   Wed Oct 20, 2010 2:12 am

well we got the call that he made it to bmt, now the real waiting begins...2 weeks for a letter or call! yikes, im gonna have to get a case for my phone cause it is going to be my new copilot and go everywhere with me! the real problem im having is the fact that we have lived together over a year and now he is just gone...and his things are all packed up, i have to keep a good attitude and know he is living his dream now, and after bootcamp we can figure out the next steps

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PostSubject: Re: Girlfriends Guide to Surviving BMT   Thu Oct 21, 2010 10:09 pm

carly wrote:
well we got the call that he made it to bmt, now the real waiting begins...2 weeks for a letter or call! yikes, im gonna have to get a case for my phone cause it is going to be my new copilot and go everywhere with me! the real problem im having is the fact that we have lived together over a year and now he is just gone...and his things are all packed up, i have to keep a good attitude and know he is living his dream now, and after bootcamp we can figure out the next steps

I know what you mean about all his things being packed up. I went to Nick's house a few weeks before his graduation to pick a few things up for him, and it broke my heart to see his room so empty.
The weeks will go by before you know it, I promise!
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PostSubject: Re: Girlfriends Guide to Surviving BMT   Mon Nov 15, 2010 12:07 am

Okay, I'm just putting this out there. I've had issues on a few groups on facebook where a new Air Force girlfriend will come on and wants advice about tech school and BMT. I'll post the rules that Nick had and what I experience, but keep in mind, EACH TI HAS DIFFRENT RULES!! Same for tech school, each one differs with the rules the Airmen have!

Everyone has a diffrent experience!

Sorry girls, I just wanted to clear that up.


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PostSubject: Re: Girlfriends Guide to Surviving BMT   Fri Nov 19, 2010 12:24 am

The biggest thing to remember about BMT...

YOU CAN DO IT!!!

You are stronger than you know! The first few days will be hard. But it gets better. You get stronger. You learn how to deal with the separation. So while you're in the first few days and thinking it's utterly terrible, remember that there is a light at the end of the tunnel!

One of the things that helps me (it may not help everyone) is to count the days he's been gone. Every day, I wake up and think "Okay, yesterday was day 11. Today is day 12 and I'm gonna kick it's ass!" I like knowing that each day is one day closer to BMT graduation and it makes me feel strong to know how many days I've gotten through.

Like the other ladies said, get involved in what he's doing! I cannot stress this enough! I love going on the AF website every week and looking at the schedule and watching the BMT videos. It makes me feel more comfortable knowing somewhat what he's doing.

On the hard days, I watch videos and look at pictures of BMT graduations. It helps renew my sense of pride and it reminds me of the ultimate goal. It helps assure me that yes, there will be an end to this soon. And watching those videos helps me be more supportive of my Airman because I get that pride renewed.

Again, remember...YOU CAN DO IT!!! YOU ARE STRONGER THAN YOU KNOW!!!





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PostSubject: Re: Girlfriends Guide to Surviving BMT   Fri Nov 19, 2010 10:10 pm

I did go to youtube and watch some training videos about BMT, it helped alot! knowing what he was going through made me feel way closer, and we are halfway done! yay, i fly dec. 15th to lackland and cant wait! he also had me look up a couple songs that they play sundays at church, wow, tearjerkers for sure, but its kinda like when you people are apart but looking at the same moon, on sunday i will listen to those songs, and always think of him and know that he is doing the same :)
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PostSubject: Re: Girlfriends Guide to Surviving BMT   Wed Dec 28, 2011 1:23 am

This has given me so much information that I didn't know about! I will definately fill my boyfriend in about everything before he leaves for BMT and also his parents about everything as well. Thanks ladies for posting this!!
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